What's the biggest regret in your life?

[MrHellstorm17]

Mine is getting a degree in oriental studies. I cannot get a job even a year after graduation. Apparently, I am to work at a gas station or in a supermarket.

[mrthejoshmon]

Spent 3 years of my life earning an IMI light motor vehicle and repairs level 1, 2 and 3 diploma respectively.

 

Nowhere was hiring, now I'm stuck in retail and haven't touched a spanner in like 7 years, I have wasted my life.

 

Also, posture. The Mr Burns look ain't so fresh.

Edited June 14, 2023 by mrthejoshmon

[Biodegradable]

Not making the move into freelancing sooner. Could've saved myself a couple of years languishing in unemployment, but I was too afraid of failure back then and still convinced that I had to keep trying to appease the system.

[MrFroz]

Not speaking my mind more often

[Nevander]

Not asking out my high school crush.

[act]

28 minutes ago, Nevander said:

Not asking out my high school crush.

I feel you. Then again, he was my school-provided councillor.

Spoiler

im so sorry i had to make that joke

 

[Chezza]

None, every bad decision has a lesson to learn. If we're stable, capable people then we become wiser.

 

Oh wait! I put money into Crypto currency before the crash. But everyone needs a good lesson about gambling.

Edited June 15, 2023 by Chezza

[MS-06FZ Zaku II Kai]

On 6/14/2023 at 12:43 PM, MrHellstorm17 said:

Mine is getting a degree in oriental studies. I cannot get a job even a year after graduation. Apparently, I am to work at a gas station or in a supermarket.

Damn I feel ya there, got a bachelor in humanities and feel the same.

 

Hope my bussiness picks up :/

[MFG38]

While I don't exactly regret dropping out of university in favor of a music degree - least of all because of the timing - one thing that's kinda gnawing at me is the fact that I did so before I even got a Bachelor's Degree out. Contemplating reapplying and busting at least that out at the moment. Though to be fair, I'm mostly trying to think of an excuse to quit my increasingly exhausting day job.

[MS-06FZ Zaku II Kai]

20 hours ago, MFG38 said:

While I don't exactly regret dropping out of university in favor of a music degree - least of all because of the timing - one thing that's kinda gnawing at me is the fact that I did so before I even got a Bachelor's Degree out. Contemplating reapplying and busting at least that out at the moment. Though to be fair, I'm mostly trying to think of an excuse to quit my increasingly exhausting day job.

I'd say if your job pays well, then you shouldn't worry about a degree unless you realy need it.

[MFG38]

52 minutes ago, MS-06FZ Zaku II Kai said:

I'd say if your job pays well, then you shouldn't worry about a degree unless you realy need it.

 

It pays decently enough that I don't have to worry about budgeting my expenses, but it's not something I see myself doing until the day I retire. I've mostly been treating it as a temporary stop while I figure out what I actually want to do.

[FecalMystAche]

My biggest regret is being a bit too introverted for the majority of my adult life. Relationships, career opportunities, etc. I let slip away because I didn’t want to open up and make new connections. Oh well, I have it okay for now at least. 

Edited June 16, 2023 by FecalMystAche

[Shakariki Heisenberg]

not asking my crush out (she liked me)

and this kinda connects with first one not rlly talking (i still do this and i know ima regret it in the future but whatever am i right)outside i literally do not talk at all i just look down and walk or whatever at home i mean i kinda talk ig idk

[ＤΞＬＴΛ]

I've got a few:

 

High school!

 

Not being able to ask out a girl (There was a girl that I sort of liked, I tried to strike a conversation about doom modding, but it didn't really catch on) Back at primary school however, I had this friend who I was great friends with, even sort of asked her out at one point. At a particularly rough point in my life (whilst I was in primary school), I ran away from my mum's house to see her, we just kinda hung out for a bit until my mum called the cops to try and search for me... And they found me so to her family now, I probably just look like this psycho*

 

Not being able to socialize with friends, or go anywhere with friends (I didn't really have many friends IRL to begin with, though there are two REALLY good friends that I've known since primary school, one of which I occasionally visit to play games or just hang out)

 

Not having a job (I am on track to getting a part time one however so I have that going for me)

 

Not getting to know my cousins very well (one of them died from a brain tumor or something like that) or ANY of my other relatives very well**

 

*I must reiterate, this was at a ROUGH (and I mean ROUGH) point in my life, I don't really remember much of that due to repressed memories and shit so take that as you may, luckily that shit's behind me though I still wonder where this girl is at now... And if I'll ever get to see her again. Really fucking depressing shit once you get into the nitty-gritty of it :(

 

**I did actually visit my grandad for what felt like a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, he is and forever will be a fucking awesome man! He gave me a few books, some trinkets, let me do some archery (which I'm surprisingly good at despite me never touching an actual bow in my life), showed me some rusty rifles, old tank and artillery shells, live rounds, showed me a crap ton of pictures on his computer, I think he even taught me a bit of family history, amongst other things.

 

 

 

I need to have a break, I think this thread got me good...

 

Edited June 17, 2023 by DELTA256

[MrHellstorm17]

On 6/15/2023 at 6:10 PM, MS-06FZ Zaku II Kai said:

Hope my bussiness picks up :/

 

Wow, you have money to open your own business?

[MrHellstorm17]

On 6/15/2023 at 10:20 AM, Nevander said:

Not asking out my high school crush.

 

8 hours ago, Shakariki Heisenberg said:

not asking my crush out (she liked me)

 

1 hour ago, DELTA256 said:

Not being able to ask out a girl

 

I mean no disrespect nor insult to you, but the fact that women are not worth chasing them is just a basic axiom. I think, the sooner one gets it, the better. It's called simping nowadays, as far as I'm aware

[ＤΞＬＴΛ]

1 hour ago, MrHellstorm17 said:

I mean no disrespect nor insult to you, but the fact that women are not worth chasing them is just a basic axiom. I think, the sooner one gets it, the better. It's called simping nowadays, as far as I'm aware

Makes sense to me.

 

[DSC]

2 hours ago, MrHellstorm17 said:

 

 

 

I mean no disrespect nor insult to you, but the fact that women are not worth chasing them is just a basic axiom. I think, the sooner one gets it, the better. It's called simping nowadays, as far as I'm aware

Please, we've had enough shitposting on DW recently, and now also starting to share incel nonsense is not what we need now.

[thiccyosh]

I have yet to find one. Come back in, about 10 years or so.

[cracky-bracky]

Being honest, telling certain people in my house about stuff in my head, because now they wont leave me alone about it, and it's ruined my life, for the time being. Until I move out I guess.

 

It's like having some stupid schizophrenia diagnosis makes me some senile old man with dementia somehow, which it's absolutely not, idk why people think that, i can still do stuff. Also, everyone keeps trying to convince me to take drugs now, which is stupid. They cant LEGALLY make me take them, i don't think, however ive got a sneaking suspicion that they are/are trying to anyways, without me knowing. I don't think i could trust people again, :p. Besides, they just make me stupid, and dont actually "fix" anything lol. If you have brain problems, please dont tell people with actual power about it, they will just use it against your will. I just wanna be left alone, yknow? :) I should have never told anybody

 

Edited June 17, 2023 by cracky-bracky

[Shakariki Heisenberg]

9 hours ago, MrHellstorm17 said:

 

 

 

I mean no disrespect nor insult to you, but the fact that women are not worth chasing them is just a basic axiom. I think, the sooner one gets it, the better. It's called simping nowadays, as far as I'm aware

yea now i chase men instead of women. lets fucking goo

[Goody]

Getting a film degree from a for profit college immediately after graduating high school. It did indirectly lead me to where I'm at now, which I'm happy with, but goodness, I'm gonna be paying back those loans for years.

[Spooner5020]

A few things. 
 

Not going to High School right away when I was offered after my 2nd semester of 8th grade. I felt I wasn’t ready and wanted to do the musical the following year the school was doing. Ended up being a really dumb decision cause all my friends from middle school graduated before me and I didn’t even get to go to the same high school as them until 10th grade.

 

Smacked my dog to the point he yelped. I was in high school at the time and it was summer break. Well my younger sister was still sleeping and our dog spooner was barking at someone outside and I didn’t want the barking to wake up my sister. I told him to stop, but he wouldn’t listen. So what I thought was a light smack ended up being harder than I thought and he yelped and looked at me with really sad eyes with his head bent down. I felt so freaking bad that I got down and hugged him and kissed him telling him I was sorry. It is something that still irks me to this day. Spooner passed away last year in March at a good age of 18. Even today I wished I hadn’t done that.

 

Another dog related thing. When I was in 4th grade we had a black lab Dixie who was our very first dog. There was an incident that happened that if it happened again we were gonna have to put her down. The first time it happened she was chewing on a bone. Little did I know that when a dog is eating it does not like you sneaking up behind them or something. So I tried petting her when she wasn’t paying attention so next thing I knew she snarled at me and bit the top of my eyelid to the point it bled. My older sister saw it happen and ran to get my dad. I was in tears, but dad was pissed with Dixie and wanted to make sure I was ok.

 

Well years after something similar happened with my younger sister. I believe she was trying to give Dixie a hug while she was chewing on her bone. Again similar outcome. She ended up getting bitten and ran to mom crying. I saw my sister with Dixie at the moment, but had I known what was about to happen I could have screamed at my sister NO!! It’s not like anyone else wasn’t told never to do this again with Dixie. I begged and pleaded with my parents to not put Dixie down to no luck. Next day late afternoon Dixie was taken to the vet to be put down (which I was told at the time was she was going to live with one of my Dad’s work friends. Come to find years later that meant being put down.) In the back of my mind I still blame my younger sister for the reason Dixie being put down. Again had I just screamed NO I might have been able to stop it from happening.

[Nevander]

13 hours ago, MrHellstorm17 said:

I mean no disrespect nor insult to you, but the fact that women are not worth chasing them is just a basic axiom. I think, the sooner one gets it, the better. It's called simping nowadays, as far as I'm aware

Is that the same advice you'd give to all the men out there in successful and happy relationships or marriages? It doesn't help the men who seek to have the same things others do. We aren't wrong to want it and I wish this concept of not needing it would die already. But it's true that most women (especially these days) are not worth effort because they show zero in return for people who care about them. Modern dating world is fucked. The lucky ones still exist and there's a vast amount of men languishing that nobody ever talks about, because to hell with men's feelings.

[AbeAwesome]

Attending primary and secondary school—biggest waste of time, and a massive cause of unhappiness and trauma in my life. Took me until the final year of high-school to find out home-schooling was an option where I lived, and that was much more enjoyable, although still far too basic to be of any value.

 

I could've probably attended university at 15 if I wasn't constantly beaten by my peers for skipping grades (which was always "addressed" by putting me back in the "age-appropriate" grade, instead of expelling the violent sociopaths who beat me)—when I skipped grade 6, I was told I should switch schools, so that students don't know I'm younger, and thus a target: that worked, but when I moved countries, I found out that the school system in the Americas is even worse and more useless than my home country.

[Koko Ricky]

I'm at the point where I have no desire to regret anything. Why would I? That implies I cannot accept an action from the past. I accept them all, even the ones that were poor decisions. 

[Garlichead]

On 6/14/2023 at 4:43 AM, MrHellstorm17 said:

Mine is getting a degree in oriental studies. I cannot get a job even a year after graduation. Apparently, I am to work at a gas station or in a supermarket.

I have a degree in western philosophy, I have never managed to get a job in the field. Have spent most of my adult life working as a network administrator for several companies.  While it is not related, philosophy teaches you to be a good learner and to not be afraid of learning things on your own by reading which has made it easier for me to move forward at my workplace.

 

Around 4 years ago i got a job at a consulting company, i hate the environment and fell into a deep depression. It made me realize that I did not want to continue working on IT-related tasks. I have been studying library sciences since then and should be finishing the degree this year. Last year, I got a half-time job at a local university library and I really enjoyed the experience, but the contract was only for 6 months.

 

I have gone to several job interviews, but HR people don't appreciate that I don't have much real-world experience in the field, even though i am in charge of my team's documentation and some other related tasks (Company book club, documentation, training procedures, etc). I have put the job hunting on hold until I finish the degree to see if things go better.

 

My biggest regret was staying on IT for that long. I should have tried to move to a different field earlier and it may have been better for my mental health.

[Yousuf Anik]

1 hour ago, Koko Ricky said:

I'm at the point where I have no desire to regret anything. Why would I? That implies I cannot accept an action from the past. I accept them all, even the ones that were poor decisions. 

Same thoughts here. Even a year ago from today I used to regret for the darker decisions I made in 2019 and what happened to me afterwards. But over time I only realized that I will never have those things back to normal again no matter what I do now. Whatever over is over, now there is no point of going back there and start again. So from those mistakes I learned some life-long lessons which are now helping me become a better person than who I was. Because we all learn from mistakes.

[Chao-G]

Leaving my post-graduate course in Physics to join my friend in a start-up business that failed because the owner of the company scammed us all taking all the funds and profits, shutting the company down and running away. Now I have 3 years of my life spent in an illegitimate business that I cannot count as experience, and no post-graduate degree. Now it's like I have to start over as if I just graduated from college.