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[ＤΞＬＴΛ]

heyo, i want to post a bit of an update about my relationship here and just say that I'm talking with my bf about what to do in the future, we have an actual ton in common to the point where you might think he's my doppelganger. i'm currently organising a job and my own phone plan and i scrapped my original plan and instead decided to go to america and hopefully pick him up in maybe two years or less (less stress on his end). i absolutely am aware that people are raising an eyebrow about this, and i just wanna say that i know what i'm doing. thanks for listening!

[dasho]

54 minutes ago, DELTA256 said:

i absolutely am aware that people are raising an eyebrow about this, and i just wanna say that i know what i'm doing.

 

You don't, and the sooner you abandon this foolishness the better. You can cut it off now and confine yourself to just a broken heart or wait and suffer likely fiscal or physical harm.

[Chezza]

1 hour ago, DELTA256 said:

heyo, i want to post a bit of an update about my relationship here and just say that I'm talking with my bf about what to do in the future, we have an actual ton in common to the point where you might think he's my doppelganger. i'm currently organising a job and my own phone plan and i scrapped my original plan and instead decided to go to america and hopefully pick him up in maybe two years or less (less stress on his end). i absolutely am aware that people are raising an eyebrow about this, and i just wanna say that i know what i'm doing. thanks for listening!

Please don't return here with a sob story.

 

Be happy with your decision or find somewhere else to seek sympathy when / if things go bad. Many people put time to read your stories and threads and tried counselling you as best we can, and clearly ignored.

Edited August 12, 2023 by Chezza

[OniriA]

Where do your parents stand in all of this?

Edited August 12, 2023 by OniriA

[Zulk RS]

1 hour ago, DELTA256 said:

heyo, i want to post a bit of an update about my relationship here and just say that I'm talking with my bf about what to do in the future, we have an actual ton in common to the point where you might think he's my doppelganger. i'm currently organising a job and my own phone plan and i scrapped my original plan and instead decided to go to america and hopefully pick him up in maybe two years or less (less stress on his end). i absolutely am aware that people are raising an eyebrow about this, and i just wanna say that i know what i'm doing. thanks for listening!

 

Please don't.

 

I get it. You know you can trust this guy and that you know what he's like. But it's one thing to invite a stranger to your house and another thing to move to a different country to live with said stranger.

 

You don't have to break up with the guy. Just slow down. There are so many things that can and are likely to go wrong with this that it's not even funny. And I hate to say this but you moving to America after talking to this guy for less than a month is a terrible idea.

 

14 minutes ago, OniriA said:

Where do your parents stand in all of this?

 

Yeah I second this.

[ebrl]

You know, if I was a betting man, I'd say that's a lost cause, and the sooner we withdraw any emotional attachment we might have had to this situation, the better. I can even picture our buddy reading through the thread, thinking to himself that we're all like "the others", and that he doesn't need to listen to "these people" anymore because he has found "true love", in the form of some complete stranger who so casually and automatically replied something to the effect of "wow, just like me" to everything he said while he desperately opened himself up in his never-ending search for attention. Oldest trick in the book, even older than the bait-and-switch of "I'll travel the world to be at your side, wait on second thought you come to me instead because why not".

 

And his parents? He probably hates his parents. Bringing up his parents will just reinforce his desire to do the dumbest shit.

 

Now, y'all might think I'm being too harsh, too abrasive, too mean - and you might be correct. But after adding insult to injury by throwing that snarky "thanks for listening!" at the end there? I say it's completely deserved, and I didn't even go as far as I think I should, and as I certainly could.

[TheUltimateDoomer666]

2 hours ago, DELTA256 said:

we have an actual ton in common to the point where you might think he's my doppelganger.

There is no way you could possibly know that from talking to some random person online for a week. You seem to be too young or naive to understand that meeting up with random strangers can be extremely dangerous. People can lie, and there are people that can and will take advantage of your complete disregard for personal safety. I'm not trying to be harsh, but I've heard too many horror stories of exactly this kind of careless behavior ending in disaster.

Edited August 12, 2023 by TheUltimateDoomer666

[mrthejoshmon]

2 outcomes:

 

• It goes wonderfully and you live happily ever after with your "clone" (that you "threw your heterosexuality away" for, still hung up on that) and we are happy for you.
• Unmitigated disaster ending in trauma (mental and/or physical), it ends poorly for everyone and you come back here moaning.

I will say that I respect your decision to ignore the blatant red flags and warning symbols painstakingly identified and laid out by everyone with more experience for you, but hey digging that maverick lifestyle.

 

Good luck, remember to have fun, and most importantly remember to, uh, dryclean your fursuit after use.

[Stupid Bunny]

3 hours ago, DELTA256 said:

i just wanna say that i know what i'm doing. 

You are apparently considering moving to an entirely different country for a person you’ve known for two weeks on Discord. You absolutely do not know what you are doing.

 

[Murdoch]

8 minutes ago, Stupid Bunny said:

You are apparently considering moving to an entirely different country for a person you’ve known for two weeks on Discord. You absolutely do not know what you are doing.

 

 

Nope. This is lunacy bordering on being  suicidal. We tried Delta. You've decided to ignore our advice. Good luck. You're going to need it.

[Zulk RS]

4 hours ago, mrthejoshmon said:

• Unmitigated disaster ending in trauma (mental and/or physical), it ends poorly for everyone and you come back here moaning

 

Bruh, this outcome for going to live with a random stranger in a new country after only talking to them for 2 weeks is putting it mildly.

 

The worst and unfortunately not entirely impossible ending to something like this is ending up in the back of a fucking milk carton.

[Redneckerz]

8 hours ago, DELTA256 said:

heyo, i want to post a bit of an update about my relationship here and just say that I'm talking with my bf about what to do in the future, we have an actual ton in common to the point where you might think he's my doppelganger. i'm currently organising a job and my own phone plan and i scrapped my original plan and instead decided to go to america and hopefully pick him up in maybe two years or less (less stress on his end).

 

i absolutely am aware that people are raising an eyebrow about this, and i just wanna say that i know what i'm doing. thanks for listening!

(I can't get multiquote working anymore where it makes a new quote when hitting space. I have no idea why.)
 

In maybe two years or less.

 

Its easier to say, but two years is a lot. You cannot possibly plan ahead that far away unless you are certain that this is the golden ticket.

You think now that this person is the golden ticket but you have literally no idea, because you aren't putting in the time to see if he is. Time is what makes things worthwhile and time is what determines whether one is ought to stay or not. You can't just decide on a whim that this is all worth giving up for. The fact that you do that suggests a lack of emotional adulthood.

 

i absolutely am aware that people are raising an eyebrow about this, and i just wanna say that i know what i'm doing. thanks for listening!

 

Considering your previous tearjerk topics on your own stability, i find this kind of line downright arrogant. ''I know what i am doing'', says the guy who literally is ignoring every single piece of advice in this entire thread.

 

I am starting to think you really want to earn that user title you have been bagging as of late.

[OniriA]

12 hours ago, DELTA256 said:

he's my doppelganger.

 

Well, I guess you're safe then. Especially if he's also a professional dumbass.

 

[Craneo]

12 hours ago, DELTA256 said:

he's my doppelganger.

You DO know Doppelgangers are a omen of bad luck in mythology, right?
 

Quote

A doppelgänger[a] (/ˈdɒpəlɡɛŋər, -ɡæŋər/), sometimes spelled as doppelgaenger or doppelganger is a biologically unrelated look-alike, or a double, of a living person.

In fiction and mythology, a doppelgänger is often portrayed as a ghostly or paranormal phenomenon and usually seen as a harbinger of bad luck. Other traditions and stories equate a doppelgänger with an evil twin. In modern times, the term twin stranger is occasionally used.[3]

 

[Major Arlene]

13 hours ago, DELTA256 said:

 instead decided to go to america

yeah don't do that lol

edit: I'm speaking as someone who has moved long-distance for a relationship. you literally met this person what, two weeks ago at best? it took me 4 years, mostly because of the pandemic, but also because, uh, I wanted to make sure I was making the right choice. I didn't even want to attempt to go to meet my partner until a year into our relationship because I was concerned that it wouldn't be a good idea. please be careful and absolutely do not move to America, for several reasons, especially since I gather you're in Australia.

Edited August 12, 2023 by Major Arlene

[D4NUK1]

Please man, for someone also with problems of socialization and being in the ways of all more open type of stuff on romance and love (Bi gender). 

 

This it's not the way, you can still have the connections of relationship with this dude, but be really slow with the process of moving to other places, or changes that are this drastically, more if you're not old enough like say 26 o 29 years old because that's a lot of experience or stuff to learn with others people's experience.

[G19Doom]

Don’t do this crap. By the time you get halfway through this plan it’s going to backfire and you’ll be worse off.

 

Long distance relationships can work out into long term ones where the distance factor eventually goes away, but not when the pace is faster than a cheetah in heat.
 

If you want to speed stuff up then just find some more local hole to plug instead. That’ll have far less risks than this!

Edited August 12, 2023 by G19Doom

[Decay]

Damn, OP's user title is truly self-fulfilling.

[OniriA]

5 minutes ago, G19Doom said:

If you want to speed stuff up then just find some more local hole to plug instead. 

 

 

[FecalMystAche]

Sorry but how do you know what you’re doing if you have no experience? As someone who has definitely “been around”… this just sounds like something that if you and this person REALLY care about each other, then you’ll both see that it isn’t worth rushing this at all, or making serious life-altering long-term commitments to each other before either of you have ever actually met. In other words, a really bad idea, especially for a younger person who has their whole future ahead of them. 

[JustAthel]

16 hours ago, DELTA256 said:

heyo, i want to post a bit of an update about my relationship here and just say that I'm talking with my bf about what to do in the future, we have an actual ton in common to the point where you might think he's my doppelganger. i'm currently organising a job and my own phone plan and i scrapped my original plan and instead decided to go to america and hopefully pick him up in maybe two years or less (less stress on his end). i absolutely am aware that people are raising an eyebrow about this, and i just wanna say that i know what i'm doing. thanks for listening!

Please especially be wary of this. Have you actually talked to this man? As in, an actual video chat? Or have y'all only spoken through text?

 

I'm hardly an expert in any of this, but just because someone has so much in common with you does not mean the relationship itself would be good, much less the person. Plus, it's Discord of all places. Meeting strangers for just a week and having a bond like this is just something that never happens, especially with this whole "heterosexual switch" that I was reading about in this thread.

 

It sounds to me more like it's an infatuation that's growing out of hand. Please be wary of everything that goes on between the both of you, and do NOT rush this. Judging by a few of your other posts I've seen you make on the forums, you could definitely benefit from taking more time with thinking this through and not acting too brash. The biggest thing here is to make sure that this person is legit, isn't just trying to take advantage of you, and isn't trying to bring you down through manipulation, traumabonding, etc. Keep an eye out for all the flags, and don't get too jaded by your rose-tinted gaze.

[Gothic]

Are you one of those "wealthy furries" I keep hearing about? You sound like you have nothing to lose.

[LadyMistDragon]

Honestly.....this is just a TERRIBLE idea. It's one thing to think you've met the love of your life at your age (your experience with love seems limited but idk) but moving to an entirely different country with zero support structure is another matter entirely. You're not seeming to think enough about what could go wrong and even if you think you've found the perfect partner, everyone else has already pointed out potential red flags. Moreover, is your knowledge of the world such that you really want to move to another country to be with someone when the amount of adulting you've done so far is, at best, quite limited? It seems horribly risky at the very least.

[TheUltimateDoomer666]

3 minutes ago, Gothic said:

Are you one of those "wealthy furries" I keep hearing about? You sound like you have nothing to lose.

The ones who create questionable content? Based on some of Delta's other posts, they've made NSFW content before, and uploaded it online. As a minor. They even reference visiting an explicit adult furry website. That's alarming because it points to them being groomed by some sinister individuals. Everything about this situation is horrifying.

[Ludi]

I went to do my daily DW check-in only to see the most horrifying thread I've seen since joining the community.

 

Do NOT move to America for someone you don't know outside of Discord, especially if you're a minor. You are asking for trouble doing something like that. I know it's a stereotype that Discord is full of groomers, but it's a true stereotype. DON'T DO THIS.

[Individualised]

OP - as someone else who suffers from ASD as well as other mental health conditions, please do not do anything stupid. What I am reading in this thread is very alarming. I haven't seen you much around on Doomworld but I gather that you are a valued member (as is everyone here) and it would be a huge shame if anything bad happened to you. I don't think we should be encouraging any further discussion on this.

Edited August 13, 2023 by Individualised

[indigotyrian]

As someone who met the love of his life on the internet and now currently lives (mostly) happily with her in a part of the country he'd never been in before... this is not the kind of decision you make this lightly. You need a lot more time and a lot more experience before making this kind of move.

 

Do not do this. Please. You will get hurt.

Edited August 13, 2023 by indigotyrian

[Gregor]

Irony mode engaged.

 

I think you guys are all completely overreacting. Chill out! @DELTA256 clearly knows what he's doing and doesn't need your overly concerned, timid advice. Changing countries and sexuality for a guy he met on the internet a couple of weeks ago and has never met in person - so what? That's what love is all about: making crazy, life-changing decisions on a whim and taking massive risks. Being safe and taking it easy is for cowards and losers. And what could possibly go wrong anyways? After all he's almost an adult. And it's not like he's autistic or anything where you would be prone to overreacting emotionally and misjudge social situations like this. He'll be fine. Go get em, tiger! Bon voyage!

 

Irony mode disengaged.

[Artman2004]

You should really slow things down here. A lot of things you've described so far has been rather suspicious, but moving to another country just for one person you met on Discord is a biiiiiiiiig stretch, especially someone you probably don't even know the face of.

 

There's just so many red flags here, and I think you should give yourself more time to think about this decision.

[OniriA]

43 minutes ago, Gregor said:

I think you guys are all completely overreacting. Chill out! @DELTA256 clearly knows what he's doing and doesn't need your overly concerned, timid advice. Changing countries and sexuality for a guy he met on the internet a couple of weeks ago and has never met in person - so what? That's what love is all about: making crazy, life-changing decisions on a whim and taking massive risks. Being safe and taking it easy is for cowards and losers. And what could possibly go wrong anyways? After all he's almost an adult. And it's not like he's autistic or anything where you would be prone to overreacting emotionally and misjudge social situations like this. He'll be fine. Go get em, tiger! Bon voyage!

 

 Word. 

 

Let him yiff in Ameeericaa. He's now a free independant gay furry who doesn't need to be lectured. Even his parents don't dare to (or don't give a shit) so why should y'all?

 

If you don't like it, then he"ll just answer "Whatevaa, talk to the hand, beatch". 

 

Edited August 13, 2023 by OniriA